First, let’s talk about the story behind this topic.
I am sure there are so many interpretations, and some don’t even know why this is always up for a debate; but let’s tell the story and then we will talk about if it should matter or not.
During the time when arranged marriages were custom, the betrothed couple wasn’t allowed to see each other before the wedding at all.
The wedding ceremony signified a business deal between two families, and a father would have been pleased for his daughter to marry a man from a rich, landowning family.
However, he also feared that if the groom met the bride before the wedding day and thought she wasn’t attractive, he’d call off the wedding, casting shame onto the bride and her family.
So, it became a tradition that the bride and groom were only allowed to meet at the wedding ceremony so that the groom did not have the opportunity to change his mind.
And that is also the original purpose of the wedding veil.
It was to keep the groom from finding out what the bride looked like until the last possible minute, when it was too late to back out of the transaction.
With this background, when it is said that a groom shouldn’t see the wedding dress, it is usually in the context of when she is in the wedding dress on the wedding day.
I think that the choice of whether the groom should see the wedding gown before the wedding day or not is mainly at the discretion of the couple. In the journey of helping brides get the best wedding gowns, I have had different experiences. There have been cases where the groom helped the bride to make a quick and easy decision about her wedding gown. I have also seen cases where the wedding gown decision was delayed because the couple could not agree on the same wedding gown.
There are also cases where the groom insists that he must see the wedding gown before the bride picks it especially if the groom is the one paying for the wedding gown. There are also cases where the price of the wedding gown is the deciding factor in the choice and the groom needs to be carried along in the process of choosing the best wedding gown.
Of course, as with every other decision, there are pros and cons.
Pros of allowing the groom see the wedding dress before the wedding day
- The couple will be able to decide on a wedding gown that they both love, so there isn’t a ‘bad’ surprise for the groom.
- Gives them the chance to take formal pre-ceremony photos.
- Letting the groom see the wedding gown, takes away the jitters when walking down the aisle and allows both you live in the moment.
Cons of allowing the groom see the wedding dress before the wedding day
The main disadvantage with the groom seeing the dress before the wedding day is that you may have taken away the surprise part of the groom seeing the wedding gown for the first time.
You should note however as a bride, you will always look fabulous on your wedding day. You need to ensure that you have the right accessories that go with your wedding gown, use the right make up, wear an elegant smile and above all, be happy.
Nevertheless, the decision making is totally dependent on what the couple agrees to. And whatever it is, Hadassah Bridals is here with you all the way.
We are just a call or text away on 09024227256, we can help you decide on a dress that will take your groom’s breath away every time he sights you.